Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Cuz baby I'm home sick.

Casual meetings. A grey and sensitive area when it's a one-on-one meeting with the opposite sex. For a more clear picture on why this is the case, let's break it down into sections.

Section 1: The Build Up

With today's technology, a majority of us, the youth, prefer contact via the means of Instant Messaging. Our first problem. Intended tones such as sarcasm are almost impossible to detect, so what do you say to make sure...for the sake of this guide, let's call them subjects. So what do you say to make sure said subject does not feel like you're flirting with them? It's not easy.

You: So it's a nice day today.
Subject: Yes it is.
You: So wanna go get drinks?

Perfect example that demonstrates someone who just wants sex.

You: So it's been a while.
Subject: Yeah it has...a year now?
You: Yeah, hey remember when we use to date?
Subject: Uh...sure...
You: Wanna get drinks?

There is no good way to do it without making it weird and awkward. Mind the exaggerated examples of course. But then, you do get stumped over. Which brings us to the next part...

Section 2: The Location

Where is a suitable place for 2 people who are not on a date to meet up without generating suspicions? I have prepared a list of places that are suitable for such a small amount of people and would likely pop up when arranging a one on one meeting.
  • The Park
  • The Bar
  • The Cafe
  • The Mall
  • Over Lunch
  • Over Dinner
  • ETC.

Obviously, there are more to add to the list and the list by itself would appear to be innocent. However, if the 2 individuals that were meeting up were not both single, and in the worse case scenario, both in a committed relationship, red lights suddenly pop over the list. Let's have a closer examination at what go on in the subject's thoughts in a few of the locations aforementioned.

The Bar.
Female: Does he want me drunk?
Male: This will get interesting

Over Dinner
Female: This isn't anything serious right?
Male: Is she hitting on me?

The Mall
Female: Ah shopping.
Male: Why the hell do we want to go to the mall?

Suddenly, the list of locations that appear to be safe become much shorter.
  • Over Lunch
  • Cafe

Section 3: The Meet Up

So from personal experience, in order to avoid embarrassment and misunderstanding, precise arrangements and minimal communication works best.
Pui: Hey, we haven't seen in ages.
Subject: Yeah like a whole year now.
Pui: Cool, we should catch up sometime, over coffee/lunch?
Subject: Sounds good, how have you been?
Pui: Hey I got to go, how about next week? K cya.
So why minimal communication prior? It's so you can save all the talking in the meet up. You've arranged for a meeting and you have a few hours to kill with conversation. You can't bet that your amazing life is as amusing to you as it is to them so save every last drop of topic. If you don't listen to this advice...well...

You: So the other day I tripped and almost died.
Subject: You said that already
You: and then I almost got hit by a car the next day.
Subject: You said that already
You: blah blah blah
Subject: Said that.

...it becomes a little awkward.

You: So how's the weather?
Subject: Weather like.

Section 4: Dress Code

Whether the other sections went smoothly or not, they will not be able to cause the same horrid impact as this section. Don't believe me? Think about it now. You're going to meet up with a friend from the opposite sex that you haven't seen in a long period of time (Over 10 months), they have a partner and you do not wish them to think you are hitting on them. How do you dress? Let's begin with male attire:
  • Formal Wear
  • Smart Casual/Semi-formal Wear
  • Stylish Casual Wear
  • Casual Wear
  • Hobo Wear
I'm sure most of you would agree that Hobo Wear and Formal Wear should come off immediately leaving Smart Casual, Stylish Casual and Casual. If you wear smart casual wear, would the subject think you're over dressing? If you wear stylish casual, would the subject think you're gay? If you wear casual wear, would the subject think you're slack?  As the subject's old friend, I hope you know their personality and your own to pick out the most fitting attire.

For females, it's a little bit more complicated. Firstly we have a similar list as above:
  • Formal Wear
  • Smart Casual/Semi-formal Wear
  • Stylish Casual Wear
  • Casual Wear
  • Hobo Wear
And then we have the next part:
  • Dresses
  • Skirts
  • Jeans
  • Tights
  • Stockings
  • Short-shorts
  • Heels
  • Flats
  • Boots

And then some might take a look at this list:
  • Padded
  • Push-up
  • Nude
And finally:
  • Low Cut
  • High Cut
  • Revealing one shoulder
  • Strapless
  • Low cut at the back
  • Exposes the back
  • Length of skirt/shorts
As I am no expert on female clothing, girls, I just hope you know how to unravel that list and put together  your outfit. Or if you can, help me out here to complete this guide.



  1. I can't believed you put up my t-shirt =3 ... i knew i should have bought it when i saw it! D=

  2. Woah dilemma indeed XD
    Hope it doesn't happen to me >.<

  3. that would be pretty awkward.
    i would probably just avoid them, and if i do run into them, i'd be straightforward. the truth hurts, but it's better than leading someone on.
    as for clothing, i think a girl should stick to a simple t-shirt and jeans. dressing a little modestly should do the trick here.
    nice blog, by the way. :)


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